Do you feel abandoned, empty, or disconnected from the world? Therapists ask clients this question (in different ways) to for a reason.
People who are alone or lonely are at risk for developing severe mental and physical conditions, according to a recent report from The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
what are the health risks of social isolation and loneliness?
According to the CDC (Health Risks of Social Isolation and Loneliness, 2023), people who are lonely are at risk of developing:
- Depression
- Addiction
- Suicidality
- Self-harm
- Dementia
- Heart disease
- Stroke
The CDC (2023) also found that certain marginalized populations have a higher risk of becoming sick:
- Low-income adults
- Young adults
- Older adults
- Adults living alone
- People with existing chronic diseases, disabilities, and mental health challenges
- Immigrants
- Individuals who identify as LGBTQ
what are the benefits of social contact?
Conversely, research shows that people are innately social. Our brains are wired to be with other humans. Those who interact with others in person, especially in groups, reduce their chances of developing the illnesses listed above. They have less trouble getting through stressful times and are more interested in and satisfied with life than those without regular social contact (Danvers, Efinger, & Mehl, 2023).
Social contact reduces anxiety, so thinking is clearer and the ability to make decisions is enhanced.
how to connect with others in our increasingly digital world
Internet socialization increasingly is replacing human contact. Younger individuals may perceive online friendships to be the societal norm. The internet offers opportunities for growth and learning anywhere at any time (virtual therapy, for example).
Therapists often suggest online meetings and group discussions through social media for people who live in isolated areas, have social fears, or have limited time due to work and family responsibililties. Studies show, however, that internet friendships do not offer a level of life satisfaction equal to traditional face-to-face contacts (Plumage, N., 2020).
In our society of electronic connections, we humans (who are social beings), can feel isolated, on the outside of life, or not good enough to be with others. If you struggle with these thoughts and emotions, it is likely that face-to-face conversation will help.
Here are a few suggestions for reconnecting with people and improving mood (Mass General Brigham McLean, 2003; CDC, The Power of connection: How it can improve our health, 2023):
Practice gratitude to increase a positive attitude. Suggestions: Keep a gratitude journal. Send a thank you note. Make a phone call to say thank you to someone important in your life.
Take part in activities that have personal meaning. Examples: Ask friends to come over for a meal. Attend a spiritual meeting.
Invest time in nurturing your relationships.
Explore ways to meet new people, like joining a club or taking a class.
Share things you already do (like exercising or having a meal) with a friend—or do new activities with them.
Find ways to be responsive, supportive, and grateful to others.
Reduce practices that lead to feelings of disconnection from others, such as excessive social media use.
Talk to a health care provider if you are concerned about stress, loneliness, and social isolation to ensure you are taking care of your mental health.
Creating your own list of ways to connect socially.
Keep in mind that any change takes time! At Sea Glass Mental Health, clinicians are ready to support you as you change. You can learn to cope with the overwhelming emotion of loneliness and overcome a sense of isolation.
Meet The Author
PAM WAGNER
LMSW, LPC, CTS-1
Meet The Author
Pam is a Clinical Therapist at Sea Glass Mental Health. She works with adults, couples, and families. Pam specializes in female childhood trauma, chronic pain, PTSD, and EMDR.
